Pro Choice: Why are Some Women Using Abortion as a Contraceptive?

Apparently unborn babies aren’t human
found on twitter

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2022/06/dobbs-roe-overturned-abortion-choice/661408/

I have added this at the beginning of the article as an example of the kind of women I am referring to. Seeing as the negative comments from women so far in response to this article tell me that they do not understand the meaning of the word: ‘SOME’. This is the kind of woman that I am referring to in this post. Don’t come to me with quotes making blanket statement about what everyone does or doesn’t do. None of us can speak for everyone. -16/07/2022

I haven’t always been a Muslim but I’ll be honest with you being raised as a Christian and having an obsession with babies ever since I was a child myself I always wanted to have lots of babies. Or at least the opportunity to be surrounded by them.

I remember one of my best friends growing up in church. Her mum used to have a baby every year. She sure was fertile. People in church would criticise her for constantly being pregnant and not giving herself a break. Why doesn’t she use some contraception they would say?

Being a young girl at the time my views were different to theirs. I didn’t see the big deal with having lots of kids. I thought as long as you can afford to give them what they need, love them and raise them right, the more the merrier.

When I got a little older and I was in secondary school we learned about contraceptives and ‘safe sex’. We were shown in class the many different types that were available: physical as well as the pill and injection. We as young girls were encouraged to take control of our sexual health and risk of unwanted pregnancy. We were also told about the morning after pill, in case of emergency had we not been prepared for the night before.

Fact is none of us could say that we didn’t have a sex education. We were taught what sex was and how to best prevent sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy.

We were not taught about marriage of course, or how to have a healthy relationship that would have been out of the question. Let’s not mention abstinence, what does that mean?

We were young girls and interested in boys and they were interested in us. I’m sure in the UK its pretty much the same as most western countries in that respect, especially back then. I’m talking about 25 years ago now.

I know that sexual education has only been increased since I left school. So it leads me to to the following question:

Save a life, Choose contraceptives
Save a life right? Image found on YouTube

I’m not talking about those women who have been informed by their doctor that pregnancy or carrying a child to term will be life threatening. I’m also not talking about those whose pregnancies are a result of rape of any kind.

Have we not have enough sex education in schools to be able to make informed decisions and have ‘safe sex’. I’m sure that not all unwanted pregnancies come about as a result of rape. So what is happening to our so-called liberated, empowered western female that she cant keep her legs closed or at the very least use at least one of the several contraceptives on offer?

I’m not even going to get into whether an unborn child is a life or not. I want to know why women in the west with all their education and freedom are choosing to use abortion as a form of contraceptive? Why let yourself get pregnant in the first place if you’re so concerned about your body?

I remember I had a college friend who had an abortion for a long time boyfriend that she was trying to break up with. Both me and our other friend had advised her against it. A short while later my other friend and I became Muslim, got married and had babies. Our friend who had the abortion lamented over the age at which her child would have been had she not gotten rid of it.

The mistakes that we make in life are gone and past. Most of the time we cannot do anything to make up for those errors especially when taking a life has been involved.

If a woman's right to abortion is a matter of choice should she not be mentally competent first? And if she doesn’t have the mental competence to refrain from intercourse with a mate who she deems unfit to be the father of her child or at the very least use the easily available contraceptives then I suppose she herself wouldn’t be fit to be a mother. But should this mean abortion? It’s not an easy thing to go through and a lot of women regret it later.

As a Muslim I believe that abortion is taking a human life, especially when it happens after the 16 week period. This is the time that the soul is given to the child. However there are some exceptions which make abortions permissible such as if the life of the mother is at risk.

In Islam sex before marriage is not permitted. It is an act allowed only between a man and a woman within the confines of marriage, a sacred bond. Allah describes this bond of marriage between a man and a woman in the Quran as one of love and mercy.

Women need to start making more conscious and better choices about who they let fertilise their eggs. And if they are really concerned about the health of their bodies, staying celibate if unmarried is one of the best ways to keep in optimum health, mentally as well as physically.

We are more than just our bodies, but the way we treat our bodies has a big effect on our mental, emotional and spiritual state.

Abortion should never be taken lightly, nor should it be used in such a careless fashion for those who could and should be doing a lot better. Take personal responsibility and make sure not to get pregnant in the first place.

Let’s think better so that we can choose better.

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